Single Parent Co-Housing in Vancouver, WA

I'm a 44 year old trans nonbinary single parent of two children and two cats. We are each neurospicy in our own ways, which makes life more interesting and fun for sure! I share custody 50/50 with my ex-wife and the kids attend public school in the Vancouver School District. I work from home 4 days per week and from the office the other day for the State of Washington Division of Child Support. I'm committed to my recovery in two twelve step programs, neither of which are based on a history of substance abuse. However, I do prefer to live with others who are either substance free or only use substances rarely. What that looks like for me is that I have the occasional cider drink and never anything else other than prescription and over the counter medications as needed.

I'm passionate about community care and mutual aid and have been dreaming of intentional community through co-housing for a while now. Growing up I assumed my shared housing would be with a spouse, but having experienced marriage I have come to the realization that I do not in any way desire that experience again. What I do desire is supportive, intentional, loving, platonic, cooperative housing.

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I'm seeking co-housing with other single parents preferably. I'd be open to single child-free people as housemates as well, but living with others who love and care deeply for children is non-negotiable. My children are Latinx and I am white and actively practice anti-racism in my daily life. Therefore, it is critical that my housemates also share this worldview. It is important to me that those I live with be clean and tidy and that they can take personal responsibility for cleaning and maintaining their own and shared spaces cooperatively. I value social justice and am still learning and growing in certain areas such as climate and educational justice. For example, I do not keep a home completely free of plastics or compost or eat only vegan food, but I do value recycling and leaning toward reusable products and reducing my eco-footprint. The same goes with education. My children attend public schools as I don't have any desire to be their teacher, but I am also critical of public education and advocate politically for changes locally, state-wide, and nationally. In most things I take a very diplomatic approach and generally lean left ideologically. If it wasn't also clear already, I'm very queer and would LOVE to live with other queer people. However, again, I am not in any way wanting to mix my romantic life with my housing.

Where Are You Located?

Vancouver, WA